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Better or worse?

I am a hopeless romantic.  I love Romantic Comedies, provided they are not too silly.  And some of my favourite books have always been the Jane Austen and Bronte Novels.  Pride and Prejudice and Jane Eyre are two of my favourite books, and I own DVD movies and miniseries for most of them.

Except that most of my life I have been a thwarted romantic.  Until three years ago, when I met the love of my life, and convinced her to become my wife.

630717_1275255086748.95res_300_300About two years ago, my wife bought me an entire set of Jane Austen Novels, plus a few other classic romances.  And I realised the other day that I have not read any of them since I got married.  In fact… I have never even finished Persuasion, which is the book I was reading when we met. 

And it got me to thinking about how women often complain that Jane Austen gave them unrealistic expectations of men. The theory seeming to be that Jane Austen men are too good to be true, whereas I was reading not to find someone, but to find out who I needed to be to find someone.  In essence I guess I was trying to learn how to be the perfect man.

I was also losing myself in the fantasy world of being able to be somebody’s Mr Darcy, or Henry Tinley.  (Who is much cooler in my opinion.)

So now that I am married, and have found my romantic heroine, and have spent over three years learning about what true/real love is, and how it works in the real world, I wonder if I will find the novels better (because I can read from experience) or worse (because I have the real thing, and don’t need the fantasy.)

With that question in mind, I am going to re-read all the books the next two months.  Including finally getting through Persuasion

What do you think?  Does romantic fiction teach us about how good love can be?  Or give us unrealistic expectations?

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Posted by on February 17, 2014 in books, Ponderings


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NaNoWriMo ’10 – Day 18

Day 18.  A very busy day.  I was in court until late, and only just had time to get ready for our write-in last night.  So I am not going to post my wordcount for today. 😦

One of the reasons I am writing so slowly is because, for the third year I am writing by hand.

Yes, I am writing all 50,000 words by hand!

Why?  Well to answer that question, I will now share something I wrote for the South African Romance Writers site last year.

50000 in 30 days is madness and we all need some way to make it fun for us as we do it, as with any writing. For you, that might be wearing a silly hat while you write, or rewarding yourself for every thousand words. For me, the way to make it fun, is to feel the old-fashioned delight of watching word after word appear indelibly on my page. It fills me with a sense of satisfaction like no other, even on the days I only write 50 words. Writing by hand makes me feel more like a writer, and less like a typist. It makes it feel more like creativity, and less like work. It lets me put the book down with a feeling of accomplishment at the end of each day, which I will never get from switching off a computer.

What makes writing fun for you? How do you keep it interesting for the time it takes to struggle through? Why am I asking so many questions?

As always, you can read more about my NaNoWriMo year here, or go see the full details on the site.

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Posted by on November 19, 2010 in NaNoWriMo


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